Reality Of Life
Introduction: The Script We’re Given vs. The Reality We Face
From childhood, we are handed a comforting script. We are taught to work hard, be kind, and everything will fall into place by movies, teachers, and fairy tales. It’s a story that promises permanent success, happiness, and security if we just follow the rules.
But when we begin to truly live, the cracks in this script appear. Life itself is significantly more unpredictable. It is a messy landscape of triumphs and tragedies, blessings and burdens, victories and defeats.
Life is both more beautiful and more brutal than we ever expected.
The sooner we embrace this duality, the sooner we stop resisting reality and start living fully within it.
So, what does life really look like? These are the universally acknowledged truths of human experience, philosophy, and history.
1. Life is Not Fair—And It Never Will Be
👉Fairness is a reassuring illusion that is quickly dismantled by reality.
✅Young children get sick.
✅People who work hard remain poor.
✅ People who are dishonest sometimes rise to power.
Marcus Aurelius, the Stoic Roman Emperor, wrote:
“You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.”
He did not say life is fair—he reminded us that life is fragile and that our focus must be on our response rather than circumstances.
Real-Life Example:
👉Consider two students. One diligently studies, but gets sick during exams. Another student barely studies but correctly guesses and scores higher. Unfair? Yes. However, this is reality.
The lesson
👉Fairness is less important than resilience. Success comes to those who adapt and continue despite injustice.
2. You Are 100% Responsible for Your Own Life
👉While chance plays a role, the largest influence on your life is you.
👉Blaming parents, bosses, the economy, or fate removes your power. Although it may be burdensome, responsibility is the road to freedom.
Albert Einstein once said:
“Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment and learn again to exercise his will—his personal responsibility.”
How This Applies Today:
✅Instead of blaming lack of opportunities, build new skills.
✅Instead of blaming relationships, set boundaries or improve communication.
✅Instead of waiting for miracles, take action daily.
✅You are the author of your story. Write it with courage.
3. Suffering is Non-Negotiable—But So is Growth
There is universal suffering. No culture, religion, or person escapes it.
In the First Noble Truth, Buddha stated, “Life is suffering.” But he didn’t stop there—he taught that suffering also points the way to enlightenment and growth.
Lessons Hidden in Suffering: Failure → Teaches resilience and reinvention.
Heartbreak → Reveals your capacity for love and healing.
Loss → Forces you to reflect on what truly matters.
Illness → Teaches gratitude for health and small joys.
Rumi, the Sufi poet, wrote:
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
👉Suffering is not punishment—it is the forge of wisdom.
4. Happiness is a Byproduct, Not a Destination
One of life’s cruel tricks is that happiness disappears when you chase it directly.
We say:
👉“I’ll be happy when I get promoted.”
👉“I’ll be happy when I get married.”
👉“I’ll be happy when I buy a house.”
👉But once we reach those milestones, happiness quickly fades. This is called the hedonic treadmill—the tendency of humans to return to a baseline of happiness after achievements.
Where Happiness Really Comes From:
Psychologists confirm that lasting contentment grows from:
👉Engagement: Flow in meaningful work or hobbies.
👉Relationships: Love, family, and community bonds.
👉Contribution: Serving others, leaving impact.
👉Growth: Continuous self-improvement.
Stop chasing happiness as a finish line. Instead, build a life that naturally produces it.
5. Most People Are Focused on Themselves (And That’s Okay)
We frequently believe that the world is keeping a close eye on us and evaluating each of our errors. But the reality? Everyone else is the star of their own movie.
That embarrassing moment you replay in your head? The majority of people ignored it.
Why This Truth is Liberating:
👉You are free to try, fail, and try again.
👉You don’t need to impress everyone.
👉Perfection is less valuable than authenticity.
As Changez Khan once noted in a lecture:
“We spend half our lives worrying about others’ opinions, only to realize later that everyone was too busy worrying about themselves.”
You never had the spotlight on you, which is the freedom to live boldly.
6. Time is Your Most Valuable Currency—Spend It Wisely
Once more, money can be earned. Time cannot. Every day spent is gone forever.
Steve Jobs said:
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”
Reflect:
👉Are you spending hours scrolling endlessly, or building something meaningful?
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Do you spend time with people you love or with people who drain you?
👉Are you chasing shallow distractions, or pursuing deep fulfillment?.
The ultimate motivator to live intentionally is the awareness of one’s mortality, which is not morbid..
7. The Only Constant is Change
Everything changes. Relationships evolve. Careers shift. Bodies age.
Trying to hold on to one moment, one person, or one version of yourself is like trying to hold back the tide.
Historical Example:
One of history’s greatest conquerors, Genghis Khan (Changez Khan), was deeply aware of change. He built an empire that stretched across continents, but he knew no empire lasts forever. His wisdom lay not in resisting change, but in adapting quickly to it—turning setbacks into opportunities.
The Lesson:
👉Instead of resisting change, just go with it.
👉Give up anything that no longer serves you.
👉See endings as beginnings in disguise.
Change is not the enemy—it is the very essence of life.
8. Additional Life Realities We Often Forget
To reach closer to the full truth of life, we must add a few more timeless lessons:
a) Success Has a Price
There are years of struggle, sacrifice, and failure behind every success story. Nothing comes free.
b) Comparison is the Thief of Joy
Looking at others’ lives through the lens of social media distorts reality. Everyone struggles behind the scenes.
c) Gratitude Multiplies Joy
Studies show that people who practice gratitude daily are happier and more resilient. Gratitude shifts focus from what’s missing to what’s present.
d) Death Gives Life Its Value
If life were endless, it would lose urgency. Death is what makes time precious and choices meaningful.
Conclusion: The Brutal and Beautiful Truth
The reality of life is a paradox. It is unfair, yet filled with opportunities. It guarantees suffering, yet offers growth. It grants brief bursts of profound joy despite rejecting long-term happiness. It constantly evolves, teaching adaptability. We begin to live life more fully when we stop expecting it to be easy, fair, or permanent. Instead of asking, “Why is life this way?” We ought to ask, “How can I fully live within it?”
Author’s Note
Life is not a straight road but a battlefield, a classroom, and a garden all in one. We are honed by its brutality and softened by its beauty. Those who understand both sides—the pain and the joy—learn the true art of living.
Author— Er. Changez Khan
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